Sleep Training: Myths and Reality
Circling back to the sleep training and sleep safety post.
First of all, thank you for a great conversation! I enjoyed reading all of your comments. There were lots of different views, with some important myths very reality points that I felt need a spotlight of their own.
Here are a couple:
There is no other way to get the baby to sleep but by nursing them to sleep.
Couldn’t be farther from the truth. Even for nurse-self-to-sleep babies.
Keep an eye on the baby while nursing. When swallowing stops and the baby starts to just pacify, that’s the cue to take them off the breast. This is one of the ways of how they learn to go back to sleep from semi-awake cycle. Just remember to warm baby’s sleeping space up a little. You would wake up too if someone removed you from warm, soft arms to a cold, firm mattress. No?
Babies will do what is best for them. We need to follow their lead.
Not quite so true. Theoretically, yes.
Unless you had an absolutely perfect, stress-free pregnancy in ideal conditions and in ideal environment with absolutely perfect, blissful, pain-free birth to follow, there will be babies who do not, actually, act in a best-for-them manner.
There are “happy to starve babies”, colicky babies, conditions that cause babies to act perfectly peaceful when, in fact, their life may be in danger, etc.
Just assuming that the baby “knows best” is not the safest for the baby. Don’t save money on baby-prep courses. Take a class. Having basic knowledge of what’s ok and what’s not is essential.
Many scientific sources say that babies during natural birth receive hormones that make them ALWAYS feel euphoric. They NEVER get stressed because of that, and they also never need to time for adjustment. They adjust automatically to their surroundings when born.
This is “based” on the true facts, but VERY far from truth.
Yes, during natural birth there are hormones produced by mother’s body that help numb the pain for both, but that is where it ends.
Babies do NOT feel endlessly euphoric after birth. They DO go through the periods of an adjustment, and making it as smooth as possible for them is ... just a good human act, at the very least.
FYI, if you didn’t know: one of the ways babies real with stress is by going into a deep sleep. Particularly after a crying spell.
Keep this in mind when you come across an argument in favor of CIO method application from birth - the argument always states “the baby slept for hours and hours! And got sleep trained from day one”.
There is no sleep training here, because sleep habits form when CNS starts to mature, but there is a very stressed poor baby.
Should I continue with more text Tuesday? Maybe, make Tuesday a motherhood-related day for posts? What do you think?