Are You Lucky in Your Spouse?
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On the other note, I got a flood of DMs after yesterday’s stories on Instagram. Most of them were saying “you are so lucky to have a husband like this!” and “if I had a husband like this I would have 7 kids too”
Thank you so much for your kind words. Although, I do have something to add to clarify things a little.
I love my husband and I am lucky to have him by my side. But not any more than he is to have me. This really is a two-way street. Marriage is not only about “luck”. It is work. HARD work, make no mistake about that. Both of us are willing to work on it (and it does take two for the record), and it that sense we are lucky, yes, but that where it ends.
His version of “luck” means that he knows how to soothe my fire and be my rock when I need it. He “gets” me more than I understand myself at times. He can keep me balanced when I stumble.
My “luck” is that I get him and I am willing to support his dreams, even when it meant that providing for our entire family would fall on my shoulders for sometime while he builds his new foundation. But seeing him bloom was all worth it to me.
If you paint a picture that this magic “love” just falls on one’s head, you are wrong. Love is work. A lot of it. Sometimes it’s pulling a cart for two when the other person can’t, and then switching places.
Is there luck to some degree? Maybe. I don’t know.
But here, when it comes to marriage, I don’t believe in luck. I believe in dedication, hard work, acceptance and selflessness that BOTH partners need to have.
Luck exists. For sure. But it is very secondary.
Do you, guys, agree? Is marriage work? Or is it all about luck? Do you feel like you have been lucky in your spouse?