5 Things I Wish I Knew As a First-Time Mom and What I Learned Along the Way
Here on LivingNotes we often have the discussion amongst the team about the things that we wish we would have known when having kids for the first time. Whether you are a first-time parent or about to have a baby, many of these little tips can be useful.
In no particular order, here are 5 things that I wish that I had known when I was a first-time mom, along with lessons that I have learned since then.
1. Nothing can prepare you for a change that comes. No book. No amount of babysitting. Nothing. Having the baby for the first time in your arms is both, exhilaratingly amazing and mindblowingly terrifying. This person is 100% yours now, and the baby doesn’t come with a “how-to” manual.
-it is easier though with subsequent babies: “been there-done that” instincts kick in
2. Nothing is permanent. It’s hard to see that when sleepless nights are endless or baby has colic, but, in retrospect, all those things are very temporary.
-this understanding helped me tremendously to not “lose it” with other babies when hard moments hit.
3. Read every book, absorb it all, and do as your heart and intuition leads you to. Mother’s intuition never lies.
-over the years I met many doctors that said just that: listen to your intuition and don’t settle if something doesn’t seem right.
4. Recovery takes TIME. You may feel and even look grand a week or a month after the baby, but it takes AT LEAST a year for the body to get back to semi-normal state, more of breastfeeding is involved.
- I learned this the hard way. Looking good on the outside does not equal to being fully balanced again. Taking care of self is essential. Good nutrition, supplementation, exercise, mental relaxation - all things are equally important. It is much harder to climb back ( although definitely possible!) to a balanced state than to maintain it.
5. Trying to be the best mom you can be for your baby and child IS ENOUGH. All other opinions and views don’t matter.
-experience confirmed that 7 times over. .
What would you tell your first-timer-mom self? Anything that you learned along the way?