Let's Talk Real Motherhood
REAL motherhood - let’s talk about it, what is it really like for women and families and kids. What is normal?
Social media and Instagram were originally created to allow for an uncensored look into a real life, making people connect together and relate to each other. Then pretty filters and an abundance of editing options sent a trend of always-perfect vogue-worthy images, creating the perception of an extreme one-dimensional reality that doesn’t really exist. A reality where everyone is always happy, problems are zero and life is unending bliss ( life IS a bliss, btw, it’s just not always with butterflies and unicorns around).
Today, it seems, we are moving into a new trend: “show the worst there is or it’s not real”. And this is the trend I do not understand. Honesty. At all. I stumbled over a post that described a day in life of a big family, step-by-step. The more I read on, the more I wanted to roll my eyes.
We have a big family too, bigger than the one in the said post, and I know plenty of other big families. None of them have issues with kids loosing teeth in fights, barely-made dinners are not being dumped when mom turns around, kids don’t constantly run naked and turn living room into a potty-training area, etc.
The comments below that post sounded something like “yes! This is what a REAL day would look like! THIS is normal!”
Maybe this will sound off to some, but the scenario above is NOT normal.
We ALL have those days when hell breaks loose. But are they “daily-normal”? No.
Do you want to run away from your kids every minute of every day? Of course, not.
It seems though, that today “ugly” = “real”, and that’s the problem, my friends.
Normalizing poor manners, lack of DESIRE for manners, chaos and erasing borders of acceptable - that’s a very big problem. What’s next? What happened to teaching kindness? To teaching respect? To teaching manners? Broadening skills and education?
I don’t usually express a strong opinion here, but not mixing poor matters and lack of parenting with a hard day ANY parent always has is one of the principles I firmly stand by.
Parenting is hard. But hard does NOT equal ugly, and ugly definitely does not equal “real” or “normal”.
So, coming back to REAL motherhood: yes, it a tough job. At times unbearably difficult.
Yet, days of every parent are filled with more good memories than horror stories Instagram communities glorify today.
What do you think? Is it ok to have an uncontrollable reality be normalized?
Real motherhood - what is it for you?