4 Takeaways I've Learned from Being a Working Mom
Over the years that I have been a working mom, there have been several life lessons and hacks that I have learned and implemented along the way. I’m often asked for what I would recommend to any mom that is currently working or is planning to do that. Here are 4 of my biggest takeaways in no particular order:
I work a lot. 80+ hour weeks are a given when you building something from scratch. Times together are priceless, and every moment matters. Irregular hours can be a curse, but can be a blessing too. They allow me to be there for all important moments. Comes with a price-tag of a sleepless night, but it’s a price worth paying if it allows me to work and be an active part of my kids lives.
Sweating the small stuff is not worth it. At all. Having something else to balance out the “parenting days” puts a different perspective on things, including tantrums.
One day has 24 hours, which is not much, but there are 1440 minutes in a day, and that number is very different. I learned to plan so that no moment goes to waste.
Every minute is filled with something meaningful. Life is not long. Time with kids, while they are growing, is even shorter.
Gender roles don’t exist for us, and that is how we raise our kids too. There is no her job/his job. A family is one. Please, don’t confuse that with matters and etiquette. The fact that a man would open the door for a woman is etiquette, matters, respect. In my mind this is drastically different from expectations for her to cook dinner and him to earn money.
Both are self-sustaining independent adults. Shouldn’t both be equally capable of doing it all as well as helping each other when needs arise? I cannot imagine a healthy balance being something other than that.
What did you learn from managing parenting and adult life? Even if not a working mom, there are things that we all learn every day - what are your biggest takeaways?