Marriage to a Foreigner: Part 1
Lately I have been getting several questions about what it is like being married to a foreigner, and although I have shared my thoughts before, I wanted to start this little mini series to keep it fresh and current for everyone. If you have any additional questions, feel free to reach out in the comments below or over on the Instagram feed and I will do my best to make sure they end up in this little mini series.
One of the most common questions I am asked about is about our communication in the home: We speak English. Always have. It’s easier for me to. Maybe because I come from a multi-lingual background myself, I don’t have an attachment to one language that I often hear about.
Plus, he knows that if I am upset and starting to throw NOT English phrases in - it’s a 🔥🔥 that needs to be put out VERY quickly. As in: emergency: He knows I mean business.
We definitely have our differences, but, honestly, they have nothing to do with a culture, but rather with the way each of us was raised - ways that apply to any family no matter the location on the globe
I love the traditions I grew up observing as a child, but I also love all new things - we both do.
So, we let our kids experience it all. They don’t mind. Who would refuse double the celebrations?
In our case, we did run into the “in laws” situation, but I think it has nothing to do with the fact of international marriage but rather the situation itself.
I really don’t see myself as “being married to a foreigner”. I am married to a person I connected with on a level that’s different from what there was before him. I know he feels the same. We face same problems and laugh at the same things as anyone else does, no matter the culture.
Neither one of us thinks that “my way is better” based on cultural traditions. If one of us insists on our way, that’s because we believe it is best for us all in a particular situation.
Besides, he knows for sure that the best way to a happy marriage is to always agree with your wife. It’s been historically proven to work throughout centuries.
Am I right, ladies?!
How does marriage work for you? Do you think cultures matter or is it about finding the right person?