Marriage to a Foreigner: Part 2
Thank you to everyone that has been sharing their questions and comments on the feed, it is always good to read your thoughts and answer your questions. Continuing on with some questions from the topic:
Is there life after kids?
There is if you want it to be.
It takes a little work so that the kids don’t run the world, but what doesn’t? Particularly, when talking relationships.
I, too, like everyone else, periodically want to divorce my husband. Yep, the “ever hands on amazing dad” that everyone sees through the IG screen. At least once a month. A lot less, when I am pregnant - somehow pregnancy hormones have a soothing effect on me.
15 years down, we are still married, 7 kids in tow. Not claiming any expertise - I can only share a few things that work for us and things that don’t, as many of you asked:
- knowing each other languages is a key for me. I sound like a broken record, probably, but it is essential. Helps with kids, helps in relationship too. It’s that “magic” button that actually works.
- Keeping interest in OTHER things besides just kids. Family is a wonderful thing, but you need more substance to feed the relationship, in my opinion. This goes for both, not just women. There was a brief time in our marriage when it felt like we were on different planets. It takes effort from BOTH sides to keep up with current life. I think it’s important. Very important.
- Smiling, ohh-aahing and nodding at the right places. Seriously. Sometimes we just need to talk and have an ear that would listen. All it takes, is just being there.
Do you want me to talk more on this topic? What helps your relationship? Especially after the kids?