5 Things to Help Manage Kids on Activities
One of the questions that I am often asked is “How do you work when you go somewhere ( museum, etc) with ALL your kids without your husband?” Today I want to post a more complete answer for all of you. These are 5 things that have helped me over the years to manage the kids well when we go out:
1. Planning and common sense.
I said a million times, I plan out everything I possibly can, including free time, but if I am having a killer busy day at work, there is zero reason to go party at that very moment. Entertainment can wait a day or two, don’t you think? Common sense.
2. Plan in advance.
I plan in advance when and what we are doing, so I can schedule and take care of work in accordingly prior to leaving. While, yes, I am always reachable, when I am with kids, I want to be PRESENT and BE with them 100%.
I will know if there is something urgent. Everything else is planned for a different time.
3. Easier in Numbers.
When ALL children go together, it’s infinitely easier than having just small kids with me. A 15 year old won’t throw a tantrum, 7 year old can engage a 5 year old in something fun, and a 3 year old is much more likely to respond to a 5 year old than to an adult. Small age gaps are helpful. I highly recommend understanding Montessori principles of communication - it’s a very helpful skill.
4. Know your kids’ strengths and when some may have other interests at the time.
I get an impression that many envision me as this wild woman ALWAYS surrounded by 7 unmanageable kids.
“7 unmanageable kids” are covered by a point 3. As far as other things - do you remember yourself at 15? 13? 10-11? Did you feel like ALWAYS hanging out with your mom at that age? My kids are no different.
Also, between school, extra-curriculum activities and their personal lives I am often left with just Elisey to hang out with.
Kids are “yours” only for the first few years of life, which is why I always repeat: cherish the time. It flies by way to quickly.
5. Living in the city saves a lot of time.
City infrastructure is essential for me. With so many things being close by in the city and having a variety of things to choose, it really helps when planning activities to do together with the kids that will be engaging and easy to manage as well.
Does this give you some more clarity? What else can I answer here?
PS: Elisey shorts + high socks look is to die for, right?