Let's Talk About Raising Boys
Raising boys in today’s world - let’s talk!
When I wrote a post about raising girls, emphasizing that I believe it is important for a man to have a role of a provider in the family regardless of what the woman does, I got soooo many messages with “but what about all your talk about empowering women?!”, “why is the man supposed to do that?!”, “when have you changed your views?!” etc.
Keep calm, guys, My views haven’t changed at all.
But I do think it is important to instill in a future man a sense of responsibility for his family and children and a drive to compete and reach for goals just as much as I think it’s important for any man to be able to know how to cook, clean and do all other things necessary in life.
In my view, a successful man and a successful woman do not cancel each other out, but I DO think that in today’s world where women are often breadwinners or earn more than their husbands it is important for men to have something where they feel their importance, their value and worth. Everyone has a need for self-fulfillment, and I cannot think of a better option for a man than a career and his family, which, in most cases, by default turn him into a provider.
Also, I do think it is important for either one of the partners to be able to support the family regardless of the other one. This is not a fear-based mentality. This is common sense and a protection for the kids, whose lives both parents are responsible for. Life is unpredictable, and so is the economy in many cases.
And last, but far not least, I believe that a man’s role as a provider has nothing but a positive effect on a relationship. There is no competition, even if a wife is earning 10x the husband, if a man feels that he is not only loved, but is an equally important partner in a family. Of course, there are always exceptions, but, generally, this seems to be the truth for the majority.
What do you think? How do you raise your boys ( it would raise if you had one)?